Disclaimer: I am not a fan of both facebook and friendster. I log in to these sites once a month to “ignore” tons of invitations and growing gifts that i rec. “i don’t run a nursery” I told my friends.
I do agree that facebooks and friendster perform the function of letting you catch up with people whom you have not talked to since you both grad from pri school. it tells you if they are currently married, how many kids they have and if they are even now in singapore. in fact, the other day, my friend was updating me news of our classmates who has since dissappeared since we grad from school. “wao, you still keep in touch with all of them?” i asked. “no,” she said. “i read their facebook, there’s no need to contact them.”
WAOOoooo…. Since when has facebook or friendster replace human communication and interaction? it’s scary that people are starting to think that by checking their friends’ facebook or friendster, its the same as talking and caring for their friends.
Which brings to another incident of my young friend who is an avid blogger who blogs about every detail of his life- all the little happenings, his emotions and views etc. when i finally get to meet him in between our busy schedules, he was recounting one of his stories when he suddenly said “didn’t you read my blog?”
“No, i was busy.” i replied, totally caught off guard. I did not realise that it is now mandatory to read his blog before meeting him.
“Well, go read it.” he said, “i had written about this story in detail.” And with that, we switched topic, to something he had not blogged about, Yet.
My friend’s colleague, who’s an active blogger and sit just opposite her, tells my friend to read the story that she is now blogging about, rather than telling my friend who is just sitting in front of her. So my friend had to log onto the blog a few minutes later to read abt the story that could have been told with emotions that words cannot convey. (I hope you got the story… lol)
the mentality that reading up someone’s blog/friendster/facebook is a means to keep contact should not be taken that far. that page on your monitor is nothing more than a face(2D)book. its not a FACE that talks back at you, laugh with you, advice you or share your sad life with you.
One must remember, that all these posts are put up after the person has gone through an event and these are his after thoughts/emotions. By the time you read about it, the person has moved on. You learnt of his history but you do not share his “present”. if you do not make contact, there is no “future” between the you 2 either.
a word to those who’s lost in this (face)book. WAKE UP, the true friend is not in friendster.
Afterthought: perhaps i should post the below on my facebook/friendster/blog and see what reactions i will get from my Friends List of less than 100 people.
Msg: My dear friends, when you read this, i have passed away in an accident on XX May 20XX. I lived a sad life which fortunately you are able to share via facebook. i leave behind, in SGD, XXX billions which my fav cat “Doggie” will inherit. You may post your regret on the wall. Thanks and we’ll meet again in afterlife.
