08.12.07

Applying theories

Posted in Voices inside my head at 9:07 am by dmingz

Men is always in a paradox. on the one hand u noe u shld do sth, but in reality u are doing exactly the opposite.

Blown my temper today cos i acted faster then my i/c to arrange things due to change in weather. and got angry cos he would not follow my planning and reverse all my arrangements.

when u elect a leader, even if they are of lesser experience than you, you should follow their lead, and give them the due respect. otherwise y bother to elect the leader?

But all that’s in theory. its really not so easy to apply. unlike the laws of physics that we learn in sch n apply them easily to all the hypothetical qns in exams. to apply theories in real life is a wholy different game.

1stly, there’s the emotional issue. deep inside there is a part of me that like to be in control of things, and the unwillingness to let go of control. Also, i realise i like to lecture the lesser experienced for 1 reason or another. Mabbe the teacher part of me has seeped into my personality without my realisation.

2nd there’s the pressure of what others expect you to do. What is the difference between “guidance” and “interference”? When you see sth and predicts tt wat follows is not going right, when and how do you step in? And when you step in (or not), and the execution and result is not satisfactory, whose responsible? the I/C or you? If you do step in, will the I/C see you as an “interference”? i kena scolding 1 time when i did not step in to correct sth as a “senior”, so tt kinda confuses me now.

I am threading a fine balance and somehow i cannot manage it. come to think of it, aren’t my bosses doing the same thing? hence all my troubles at work. well, if he’s still trying to manage it at 50-sth, i guess i still have a long time to learn.

08.07.07

Naming convention

Posted in Uncategorized, Voices inside my head at 9:17 am by dmingz

while i was working on an event in suntec late 1 night, my colleague told me tt 1 day she was typing an email to me at hme, her brother saw my email address n commented: “i had a classmate in sec sch with the same name!”. with tt she asked me: “were u from dunman high sch?”

my 1st thought was “shit :(”, my 1st response was “wat’s ur bro’s name?”.

she gave me an evil laugh and said “u guess?”

so it turns out her bro was one of my sec sch classmate. jus wonder how small can singapore be tt i work with his sis 10 yr later. n tt we wouldn’t have realised the relationship had he not spotted my unique name.

Leong Tarn Meng, AKA Liang Dan Ming. Many pple tot tt i am a guy on the 1st look at my name. I was quite entertained when pple who called got embarrased when they were expecting a guy to ans the phone. Of course I’ll use my sweetest voice to tell them “Its ok!!” whahahaha

though i entertain tots of adopting an eng name, i am actually quite proud of my chinese name, esp such a unique one (refer to incident above) In this day n age when most people do not use their chinese name at work, i really like to retain my chinese name (call it the chinese pride). but what really drives me to use an eng name is when pple mis-pronounce it as 大明 or whatever that they can make of the translation.

1 time, a HOD at work pronounced my name as 大明 and i corrected him angrily to pronounce it as 丹明, in front of all his staff. frankly i m getting very tired of having to correct pple again n again. and having to teach pple how to pronounce.

SO GET IT RIGHT: I am 丹明, DAN MING, TANN MING!!!! arrrrgggggg!!!